Days uncounted

I get to see my missing son when I sleep.
He looked like Jake, but his voice was childish, like when he was 7 years old. I thought in the dream that it was because his circumstances had made him more childish–he spoke of what gas stations would let him pick off the ground, and of people shoving him away from them with such force that I saw that he winced when he touched himself.

He stashed little boxes inside his shirt to hold food and treasures, and although he had politely declined food when I bought a sandwich for myself, when I couldn’t finish it he eagerly accepted it from me then, and I saw how he had altered, and the grief woke me up.

And now I’m awake, and I’m cognizant that this Jake is a construct of my mind, and it occurs to me that I am perhaps losing the sound of his actual voice.

I fell asleep in the wee hours thinking that Jake could be mad at me, that he is staying away because he does not want me in his life. Apparently my subconscious mind rejects that notion, or just cannot deal with it.

I have never dreamt of finding his lifeless body. I suppose I think it often enough when I’m awake that my subconscious knows I’ve got that covered.

I remember a fellow writer asking me why I thought all these horrible things. Why not assume he is happy?

Jake could be happy and at peace and relieved to have his own life away from family. He could be happy without me in his life. How unpleasant for me, thinking that. Of course it makes better sense to his mom that he’s miserable and helpless without her. Or dead. How self-centered and self-serving.

I want him to be happy, to make friends, have a family. I wish I could be part of it, but the best solace is in assuming he is alive and thriving.

I’ll be grieving for myself, of course, but I’m clearer now.



3 Commentsto Days uncounted

  1. Stella says:

    Always in my prayers, Stacy, that one day soon he will knock on your door & welcome you with a big hug & kiss…

  2. Bev Landgren says:

    I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you.
    Bev

  3. Debbie says:

    I always wish I could think of the right thing to say to you, because I love you.
    We can’t always understand their journeys, or why they must take them. All we can do is keep believing they’ll find their way.
    It’s natural, I think, to fear the worst; not necessarily because of a selfish construct.

    Thank You, Holy Father, for keeping Jake safe on his journey, and for filling Stacy with Your peace and strength. Thank You for guiding Jake home.

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