“Your body. My Choice.”
That’s what my dad said to me when he pinched my nipples 47 years ago.
What he said as he pinched in passing, precisely, was, ‘This is my body.” Same-same.
I was minding my own business when this phrase erupted all over the net, trumpeted by ignorant boys who don’t realize they’re proudly revealing the muck of eons that have clogged the pipes. And yes, they are proud to say it, like, “Haha, you can’t do anything about being pregnant once I screw you.” What an odd thing to be proud of saying.
I got therapy, and I’m not over it, but I don’t dwell on it. I accept that it’s part of the fabric of my life.
But I do not like having that fabric snagged the way my dad caught at my nipples, and I’m past fed up with men who say dumb things.
You think the whole choice thing is only about abortion, and you think that focusing hard on legislating against it will right the moral ills that beset America. You think that the problem is that women just keep opening their legs up wide, and you never own that it’s men that teach young girls to do that. Emphasis on men, emphasis on girls.
Emphasis on men. My dad was 35.
Emphasis on girls. I was 13.
He did lots of other stuff, too, because he could. Because, as he said, it wasn’t my body.
I know, I know, you’re not saying the same thing my dad did. You’re saying it’s my body, but your choice. I’m sure he would agree that both phrases work. He’s dead, so I can’t ask him, so I have to just go by what he did and said to me. I think it extroplates cleanly, though.
Especially if you consider that my father wasn’t the first. No, he was not the first. No, that happened eight years previous to his pinching (only because he didn’t have access to me, I’m sure).
It was my stepfather who tried to make me suck his dick, but my mouth was too small so he just rubbed it all over my face.
Emphasis on men. Daddy Dave was 34.
Emphasis on girls. I was 5.
My body. Their choice.
The training does start early.
One in four girls is molested before she’s 18. According to your words, those girls really should just expect it.
So that statement that so many boys seem to be proud of saying–it’s not original, and it says a lot more than what you may think.
I hope to see more reactions like this:
https://www.facebook.com/reel/1139290574427711
D5 Creation
SHAME !!!!!
I thought about deleting this for the trollish content it appears to be, but it seems to be proving a larger point.
This is the comment I, the victim, received, for writing an honest, vulnerable post about what happened to me.
This anonymous person didn’t clarify who was being shamed here, and normally when someone is incensed by the injustice, they name it.
Shame-and-blamers, however, paint victims with the shame-brush for saying out loud the things that were done to them, and for using the same language as the perpetrators did.
Dear anonymous:
I don’t know if you realize it, but “when someone tries to shame you, they are trying to transfer their hurt and pain onto you.
Shamers are projecting their OWN shame, their own painful emotions.
Attacking another is a way to disown the uncomfortable feelings they are experiencing.”
https://theodoroutherapy.com/2018/09/17/the-psychology-of-shame-how-it-destroy
If you meant this differently, perhaps you can clarify.